As more famous and public figures come out and more gay men decide to become parents through surrogacy, we can presume celebrity gay dads will become more common.
Many straight celebrities choose surrogacy as their option to have kids, and many gay celebrities turn to a surrogate mom to become fathers. Whether you are a single gay dad like Bravo’s TV host Andy Cohen and blogger Perez Hilton, who is a single father of three, or a same-sex couple, surrogacy is a great way to start a family.
Speaking of Bravo TV, Million Dollar Listing New York’s Frederik Eklund and his husband, Derek Kaplan, welcomed twins in 2017 after their surrogate suffered several miscarriages. “It’s the biggest thing that could ever happen to us,” explained Eklund, who openly discussed the process and his will to have children in his show.
Celebrity fitness expert Shaun T and his husband are also fathers via surrogate mom. About the woman who gave birth to their kids at 32 weeks, they said, “You are courageous, strong, empowered, driven, powerful, dedicated, and such an amazing human! SO THANK YOU for being everything we needed and more.”
Another well-known couple who turned to egg donation and surrogacy to birth their twins is actors Neil Patrick Harris and David Burtka. They love sharing their life with their kids on Instagram. “We found an egg donor anonymously through a hilarious process of looking at people’s profiles and then an amazing surrogate who had helped a same-sex couple before,” explained Harris to a news outlet.
There are others, such as actor Matt Bommer and his husband, who keep a lower profile with their three kids, also from surrogacy.
In some cases, the first option was not surrogacy but adoption. Ricky Martin explains his choice to have a surrogate mother help him deliver his twin boys in 2008: “Adoption was one option, but it’s complicated and can take a long time.” Another musician who thought about adoption was Elton John, who explained in 2016 his and husband David Furnish’s journey: “We decided to go the surrogacy route and have children of our own after we initially tried to adopt.” They have two boys together.
Happily, the list of gay celebrities that have decided to open up and share details about their surrogacy process is getting longer and longer every day. It now includes designer Tom Ford and his husband, design guru Nate Berkus and his husband, screenwriter, producer, and director Ryan Murphy and his husband, and more. Sharing their journey is positive not only because it gives visibility to surrogacy but also because it increases acceptance of the way many have chosen to build their families.