What is a surrogate mother? A surrogate is a woman who carries a baby (or babies) for another person (the intended parents)
If you are seriously considering being a surrogate mother in the United States or in Canada, being well prepared is the key. This six-point surrogate mother checklist will help you to safeguard your surrogacy experience.
1 Determine if surrogacy is right for you
For surrogate mothers contemplating surrogacy, they should consider all issues and challenges prior to making a decision to go ahead with a surrogacy arrangement. Being fit and healthy physically and mentally are key elements to becoming a surrogate. Also, it´s important to have a support network (family and friends) around you to support and love you during the surrogacy journey.
In the following video, you will get more information about the qualifications and requirements for becoming a surrogate mother.
2 Educate yourself: What is a surrogate mother ?
Before pursuing a surrogacy arrangement educate yourself with as much information as you can. Learn what is a surrogate mother, what is surrogacy, the different types of surrogacy options, etc. There are many resources online and also it can be helpful to speak with others that have already experienced surrogacy.
3 Create a letter or profile about yourself
To help find an ideal match, it is best to create a letter or profile about yourself (and your partner). Describe yourself, your family and what you are looking for in a surrogacy relationship.
4 Your relationship with your intended parents
Before matching, it is really important to meet your intended parents (and their family if possible) in person, even if you are utilizing an agency or a surrogacy professional that has some experience in screening candidates. E-mail, Whatsapp, Skype or telephone communication may not always be truthful so it’s important to arrange a meeting before a making final decision.
It´s also good to think about what kind of relationship you would like with your intended parents and how much contact you would like to have with them during the pregnancy and after the birth.
5 Your legal position
Before you begin any medical procedures be sure to meet with a reputable local lawyer specializing in reproductive law and surrogacy regulation to learn about your legal position. Also, remember that a surrogacy agreement needs to be in place before starting any medical protocol. Be aware, that surrogacy regulation can be complex, and the legal aspects of surrogacy are different in each country, even in each region (state or province), for example, surrogacy in Canada must be altruistic however commercial surrogacy is legal in some US states.
Money, no one likes to talk about it but you will have some expenses during the pregnancy. It is important to make sure that the intended parents agree to cover all of your expenses before you become pregnant. If you do not have an agreement in place clearly stating who is paying for your medical procedures you could become liable for all these charges.
6 Time Frames
Sometimes, the intended parents may not be ready to begin their journey. Set up your time frames clearly before entering any surrogacy arrangement.
Surrogacy will change your life as well as that of the intended parents you help, so take a deep breath, remain patient and ensure you consider all the points of the 6-Point checklist.
Learn more about what is a surrogate mother and how to become a surrogate.
If you are thinking that becoming a surrogate mother is the right option for you, you have an opportunity to change the lives of a family, join our surrogacy community and find intended parents.