What to expect after failed IVF?

Does it make sense to try a new IVF cycle after a failed IVF transfer?

IVF is not a perfect science. There are too many natural variables to even begin to point to a cause.

Even in the best of circumstances PGS/PGD testing, perfect embryos, lining, etc., some transfers can fail. Time wise, there is no guarantee that you’d be at your goal any sooner, so a good approach that can allow your surrogate and/or your intended parents to keep the calm is:

  • hope to have a pregnancy going within a certain time frame (like 6 or 8 months) rather than after each transfer and
  • keep your transfer date secret; for example, don’t tell your friends and family that a transfer is taking place. Telling all your entourage puts a lot of pressure on you, and telling everyone that it didn’t work out is difficult.

After a failed transfer both parties (surrogate mother and intended parents) are going to be devastated  but unless you have a personal or medical reason to stop the relationship with your surrogate mother  or your intended parents you should consider try again, first (and second and third) attempts often do not take. Also you need to consider that people tend to share their happy stories a lot more readily than the negative ones, giving the impression that everyone is successful on the first try.

If a transfer fails, how long to wait after failed frozen embryo transfer? Usually you only need to wait until the next period to start with medication however sometimes some doctors recommend to wait a few months between transfers to let the surrogate body heal, even if test show her body it’s ready the surrogates mind / body may actually not be ready to go into a new the procedure right away.[spacer height=”10px”]

You’ll get there, no worries, you just have to be patient and possitive.

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