What to Expect after a Failed IVF?

Does it make sense to try a new IVF cycle after a failed IVF transfer?


IVF is not a perfect science

There are too many natural variables to even begin to point to a cause. Even in the best of circumstances, PGS/PGD testing, perfect embryos, lining, etc., some transfers can still fail.

Timewise, there is no guarantee that you’d be at your goal any sooner, so a good approach that can allow your surrogate and/or your intended parents to keep the calm is:

    • Hope to have a pregnancy going within a certain time frame (like 6 or 8 months) rather than after each transfer.
    • Keep your transfer date secret; for example, don’t tell your friends and family that a transfer is taking place. Telling all your entourage puts a lot of pressure on you, and telling everyone that it didn’t work out is difficult.

When IFV Fails… What is Next?

After a failed transfer, both parties (surrogate mother and intended parents) are going to be devastated, but unless you have a personal or medical reason to stop the relationship with your surrogate mother or your intended parents you should consider trying again. First (and second) attempts often do not take. Also, you need to consider that people tend to share their happy stories a lot more readily than the negative ones, giving the impression that everyone is successful on the first try.

It is normal to feel disappointed and sad. Take a break and give yourself some days to get through this before you decide what to do next.

After you have allowed yourself some time, it is necessary to schedule a meeting with your fertility specialist to discuss your options and next steps.

If a transfer fails, how long should you wait after a failed frozen embryo transfer? Usually, you only need to wait until the next period starts with medication. However, sometimes some doctors recommend waiting a few months between transfers, to let the surrogate body heal, even if the test shows her body is ready, the surrogate’s mind/body may actually not be ready to go into a new procedure right away.

You’ll get there, no worries. You just have to be patient and positive.

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Written by David
I work daily to make surrogacy available to as many intended parents, surrogate mothers and egg donors around the world as possible.

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